I Love Being an ADHD Coach…

I have been coaching for over 8 years now and I never grow tired of it.  I enjoy the constant learning in the ADHD coaching field…new research, strategies, apps, etc.  I also love learning about my clients…their different jobs, colleges and interests.

However, the most exciting part of coaching for me is understanding how my clients’ ADHD affects their daily lives and helping them find strategies to manage it.  I view it as a puzzle, finding the exact strategies that work for each client.

Each person with ADHD is a different, unique person from every other person who has ADHD.  I have not found any two clients who possess exactly the same set of ADHD characteristics.  Additionally, even if two clients share a characteristic, it is highly likely that they will each use a different strategy to manage that characteristic.

The strategy of using a calendar for planning and organizing is a good example.  Some clients prefer paper calendars.  (I even had an IT professional who chose this option!)  Others like to use smart phones, Outlook, etc.  Still others like the combination of technology and paper.  Some may add a day planner, a notebook, post-its, a whiteboard, etc.  The possible combinations are endless.

The excitement clients experience when we uncover a new tool or combination of strategies that help them manage their daily lives better is truly gratifying to me.

Before coaching, I was a practicing attorney.  Although I enjoyed that profession very much, I find coaching even more rewarding.  As a coach, I help clients to avoid pitfalls that can create significant problems down the road.  For example forgetting to pay bills or taxes, or always showing up late for work can be disastrous.  With my support, clients develop strategies so that they never have to face these situations.

Coaching is an ideal profession for me because I am constantly learning and enjoy the process of helping my clients discover tools to help them live more productive lives.  An added benefit is that my clients are remarkable people.  They are wildly creative, highly intelligent and extremely resilient.  In my world, work does not get any better than being an ADHD coach!

 

 

Sleep trouble?

Have you ever tried to change the bulbs in your nightlights… to red light bulbs?  There is a reason that your digital clock has numbers in red!  Some research supports the idea that red lighting is more soothing than white lights.  So when you wake up in the middle of the night, your sleep is not as disrupted as it would be with white lights.

Inexpensive and little effort on your part…worth a try, don’t you think?

 

 

Long or Complicated Tasks

Do you have a long or complicated task that you never seem to get to and you really don’t want to do?  (Examples include cleaning out a closet, doing a report for school or work, doing your taxes, starting an exercise routine, etc.)

Set a timer for 10 minutes. Smart phones are great for this!  If you are using a kitchen timer and the ticking is distracting, put the timer in a drawer so you can’t hear the ticking (but you are still able to hear the buzzer when it goes off.)

You are probably thinking, “There’s no way I can finish this task in 10 minutes.”

The trick is that most people find that they can do almost anything for 10 minutes!  And they tell themselves that when they start, “It’s only 10 minutes.”

You might just find that you will continue after the 10 minutes, living proof of the physics theory…”“Bodies in motion, tend to stay in motion!”

But what if, for one particular project, you simply cannot bear to do it for more than 10 minutes.  (Cleaning out the closet comes to mind!)  No stress…keep at it daily (or a couple of times a week) for 10 minutes and before you know it, it will be done! Consistency is key.

Stay tuned for other procrastination strategies!

Procrastination…

Who has not had difficulty with procrastination? Most people have experienced this challenge!  Think about the local mall on Christmas Eve or the post office the day before April 15th.

Gentle reminders to help you refocus throughout the day can be helpful.  Ask yourself one of the following questions periodically during the day:
… Are you doing what you need to do right now?
… How will you feel if you don’t do this particular task right now?
… Will it get any easier to do this task if you procrastinate… or will it get harder and more stressful?

If asking a question is not your thing, think about a simple statement such as: “Nothing feels better than doing what I need to do right now.”

Perhaps put it into your cell phone for easy access or, even better, set an alert on your phone so the reminder automatically appears throughout the day!

Good luck!

Straightening the house

Do you never seem to get around to straightening up the house?

How about doing 1 or 2 chores either when you get up in the morning, at lunchtime or when you come home in the afternoon? Or maybe one each time you walk in the door.  You decide what works best for you.  These should be easy tasks that take no more than 5 – 10 minutes…like emptying the trash, throwing out the junk mail, picking up clothes, etc.

If you really hate doing the task, put the TV or some music on to help ease the pain and… conquer the procrastination!

 

 

 

Be Kinder to Your ADHD Self

In December of 2012, The Edge Foundation posted my article entitled “Be Kinder to Your ADHD Self.”

This article addresses: the 21st Century challenges that everyone faces with life traveling at warp speed…the missteps that are bound to occur…the importance of focusing on the constructive aspects of these “bumps in the road” … & the value of reflecting on the successes you have experienced.  These challenges can be more significant for those with ADHD.

You can read the entire article here: The Edge Foundation

The Road to Success in Business

How often have you heard someone say, “If only I had started that new career or business, or followed through on that idea.” More regret surfaces when reading about someone else who did enter that career, did start that business or did follow through on that idea and became wildly successful. Haven’t we all heard someone say, “I thought about doing that years ago.”

For many of us, the road to success then becomes the road not taken. Why does this happen?

                                                  Obstacles Happen

If you are driving to Boulder, Colorado for your high school reunion, you expect a few bumps or potholes along the way. The road to success is fraught with these and many more obstacles and there is no GPS or Mapquest to direct you!

Let’s take a look at some of the obstacles on the road to success.

Roadblocks

Your neighbors, George (a dentist) and Joan (a regional manager), make cupcakes that are chock-full of omega-3 and vitamins, and are moist and delicious, and a hit with everyone in the neighborhood. They always say that they would love to market these tasty treats but they just don’t have the time or money. Most people see these roadblocks and exit the road to success and return to their comfortable existing lives.

Difficulty Finding Their Way

Perhaps George and Joan don’t know the first thing about marketing. What’s the best way to market on the internet? Who do they contact to have their product put into the local coffeehouse chain store? Sometimes people become frustrated that they don’t know how to start their business or how to start a new job search, etc. Usually, they too get off the road to success.

Out of Gas

Then again, Joan and George may have been very excited when they first thought about bringing their creative concoction to the world but as time passes so does their enthusiasm. Running out of gas leads many people, again, to get off the road to success.

Treacherous Conditions

George and Joan now are selling their goodies to the local coffeehouse. Next week, ads will appear in the newspaper, showcasing their cupcakes and announcing their website. They crunch some numbers and, to their horror, discover that the price they are charging does not cover their expenses. The same day a supplier informs them that he will no longer carry one of their key ingredients. The next day they learn that the website will take longer than expected.

It’s easy to become overwhelmed when numerous obstacles bombard you all at once. That’s when negative thoughts about your abilities seep in, sabotaging efforts and draining confidence. Once again, you are likely to exit the road.

You wouldn’t turn around and forget about your reunion in Bloulder just because of obstacles on the highway, no matter how many. It is equally ridiculous to deal with obstacles this way on the road to success!

                            Overcome The Obstacles And Keep Going!

Navigate The Obstacles Yourself

Joan and George may decide to read an article or a book about how to solve their problems. This is a terrific way to gather information but not all obstacles fall neatly into any one article or the information may be buried in a book that you don’t have time to read.

Or Joan and George will brainstorm when they have the time. This can be a very good source of ideas. However, brainstorming with another who is also steeped in the business is less than ideal because it is harder to uncover blind spots in their thinking or get a fresh perspective on an issue.

Take A Co-Worker, Spouse Or Family Member Along For The Ride

The most effective way to help overcome obstacles while driving is equally valuable when traveling the road to success. Travel with a knowledgeable companion who can help you every step of the way.

Joan may decide that she knows a co-worker that she can bounce ideas off of. This can be a good idea but not always. Does she really want to reveal their financial dilemma to a co-worker and perhaps have this information become fodder for the rumor mill? In other cases, it might not be an option. What if your goal is to switch jobs or quit your job eventually to run your business? Not neccessarily the kind of discussion you would want to have with a co-worker!

George may think that a family member, like his brother, would be a good sounding board. But upon further reflection, he may realize that family members are usually not a good source for objective and candid input.

To make matters worse, all of these people are wrapped up in their own hectic lives. Joan may find herself discussing her fantastic idea with a colleague over lunch while he is checking his email. Or George may find his discussion with his brother competing with the basketball game playing on the flatscreen while children scurry about. Not ideal situations to keep you on the road to success!

Also, because of the demands of their busy lives, spouses, family and friends tend to help sporadically, when they have time. This lack of consistent, on-going support and input can deal a deadly blow to achieving your goal. Once the adrenaline starts pumping, you need to take advantage of the momentum. How many times have you gotten pumped up about a project or an idea after discussing it with someone only to lose interest as times goes by? (Basically, you run out of gas.) Without regular, in-depth discussion and skilled input to nurture your goals, it is likely that you also will abandon your goal and exit the road to success.

The bottom line is that your friends, spouse or family are well-intentioned but they cannot provide the consistent, focused, candid and objective input that your goals deserve and need to keep you on the road to success.

Hire A Certified Coach To Take With You On The Ride

A certified, skilled coach can help a client create a game plan to overcome their obstacles. For example, the lack of money roadblock can turn into a discussion about how to cut expenses, where to borrow money, or where to find an investing partner. And the no time roadblock can turn into a discussion about how to delegate more at work, re-prioritize the to-do list at home, or take on part-time help, etc.

Through probing questions and careful listening, a skilled coach can help clients identify the steps that are needed to start that business, switch jobs, etc. so the client no longer gets lost along the way.

In-depth, regularly scheduled coaching sessions bolster enthusiasm and momentum. Clients set intermediate goals that they achieve, keeping them focused and on target, and causing their enthusiasm to soar.

Lastly, being faced with numerous obstacles can seem overwhelming and can even crush confidence entirely. A coach helps clients focus on their strengths so that they readily see how they can overcome any and all obstacles. At other times, by brainstorming ideas with clients, they can prioritize the obstacles and develop a step by step plan to overcome them. As a result, clients make more informed decisions which, in turn, fuels their confidence.

With a certified, experienced coach, Joan and George would deal with their obstacles confidently and continue on the road to success.

                                                       Parting Comment

Those who use a skilled coach will never have to regret the road not taken because the coach skillfully helps them travel down that road. They are able to live the life they want and the life they were meant to live.  Isn’t that the life you deserve to live?

Copyright 2008 Ellen Cohen

How a Coach Can Help You Achieve a Healthier Lifestyle

We have all been bombarded with news about skyrocketing healthcare costs and how unhealthy the typical American lifestyle is.  In response, diet programs have mushroomed and you can pick from numerous liquid diets, portion control diets, no carb diets, etc.   And exercise?  Gyms are popping up so often that it reminds me of Starbucks in its earlier days. And yet, the unhealthy lifestyle persists.  And who doesn’t know someone who went on a diet or started an exercise program, only to wind up heavier when the enthusiasm waned and a sense of failure set in?

What gives?
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C. R., Hollywood, CA

“For about 10 years I thought about expanding my business internationally.  The problem was that I never got around to doing anything about it.  Ellen was able to get me to think concretely about how to lay out a plan to explore different possibilities.

While working with Ellen, I was able to identify many international business opportunities.  Also, in our brainstorming sessions, she often offered a different take on the opportunities that enhanced my understanding.  The bottom line is that with her help, I made better business decisions about these opportunities—no question.”
C. R., Hollywood, CA